I typically have no preference when it comes to being single or in a relationship. I thoroughly enjoy being a bachelor and also love having a partner. I know I’m a rare breed; most people prefer one. There are those of us who romanticize love and relationships. From the time we’re 12, we’re ready to be married to the man of our dreams. We always have our eyes peeled for our future hubby. Then, of course, there are the bachelors for life. (Woot, woot!) The boys who never want to settle down, no matter how old they get.
I fall somewhere in between. But as of late, perhaps it’s the pandemic blues, or maybe I’m getting “older” — but I think I’m ready for a partner. It won’t be someone I know or someone I’m currently sleeping with. (Sorry boys, don’t get your hopes up.) It’ll be someone new. (Bad timing to meet someone new, I’m aware.) I’d like to have someone with whom I can watch the world slowly burn. Someone who’s also driven and killing it in their line of work. Someone who makes me laugh, or more importantly, laughs at my jokes. Someone to get drunk with when I discuss the NYT and Bari Weiss for a solid hour straight.
I miss the companionship of a single person. I have a lot of friends, and I do my best to see them all, but when you only see them once a month, it’s challenging to be in each other’s lives. You spend a lot of time catching up. I sometimes feel like I spend my life catching up when I’d like to build something new. I’d like to focus more on the future and less on the past.
I bring this all up because I want to manifest this shit. (Do I typically hate when people talk about the power of manifestation? 100%. Am I becoming that person? Apparently!) Imma put this shit out in the world and see what comes back to me!
Alright, I didn’t have too much content this week I particularly loved. I did, however, like my Sexplain It this week. I advised a man who keeps getting dumped with some variation of “It’s not you; it’s me.” In the column, I delve into why we break up with people the way we do. I also provide some “controversial” advice. I had a few folks messaging me to let me know they disagree.
(For future reference: I love me a difference of opinion. Let’s talk about it! But if you’re messaging me just to say, “You’re wrong” and aren’t comfortable with an “agree to disagree,” then take a deep breath, and jack off instead of messaging me. We’re allowed to approach love and sex differently!)
Sexplain It: Women Always Dump Me for the Same Reason, and I Don't Get It
Also, just for kicks, here are 14 men describing what a BJ feels like. (Thank you to everyone who replied to my query on Insta. Y’all had some funny shit to say!)
We Asked 14 Men to Describe Exactly What a Blowjob Feels Like
Until next week — your Fav Boyslut,
Zachary