This week: Capitalism, daisy chains, FWBs, throuples, and manwhores.
I used to mock people—especially young NY implants—who say, “I just need to get out of The City for a weekend.” It’s like girl, you moved to NY a few months ago. You’re here to hustle and work your ass off. You haven’t earned the right to say you need a break. (Besides, how the fuck does everyone afford, know, or have a cute, rustic cottage somewhere upstate?)
I no longer think this. I’ve come to realize that:
I was jealous. I, too, wanted to escape to a cabin in Vermont to drink Knob Creek by a crackling fireplace.
I was embodying the capitalistic teachings I had been subtly brainwashed to believe. I was raised with this idea that you toil relentlessly in your twenties and thirties, so by the time you’re forty or fifty, you can relax and begin enjoying your life.
Don’t get me wrong, I believe in working hard, and I understand the value of putting in longer hours when you’re younger to reap the fruits of your labor when you’re older. However, after seeing the orange images of California ablaze, I think it’s fair to say, I have no idea what the future will hold. The world is literally on fire, COVID-19 ain’t going anywhere, and murder hornets? WTF happened to those ugly bastards? Couldn’t they reemerge at any moment?
Anywho, this is an unnecessarily long intro to inform you that I’m currently in Maine in a rustic cabin. It’s cute AF, and it’s quiet. I always forget how accustomed I am to ambient noise until I leave NY and remember the rest of the world isn’t as loud and abrasive.
I’m here with my throuple whom I’ve missed dearly. The three of us haven’t been together since early March. After finishing up this newsletter, I’m going to douche, and then we’re going to attempt a daisy chain with me smack in the middle. Being in the middle of an MMF daisy chain is my “happy place.” I intend to be very happy this entire week.
This week, I was a guest on the Manwhore Podcast. (We stan a Boyslut x Manwhore collab!) Of course, I spoke about bisexuality and polyamory, but I definitely went deeper with this one. I’m recording a number of podcasts these days, and I’m trying to make each one different if possible. That doesn’t always happen, but in this podcast, I got really personal, looking through my past dating history. That’s something I haven’t shared too much yet on a podcast, so check it out!
Ep. 348: Bisexual Men Do Exist And They Are Exhausted!
The most recent Sexplain It hit insanely close to home. That’s why I picked the question. In short, it’s about navigating a FWB situation when you know they like you more but are lying to you (and themselves) about it. What’s your responsibility then?
(FYI, this piece is locked for MVP members a.k.a. it’s behind a paywall. A reminder, it’s two dollars a month if you subscribe to MH for the year. If you subscribe for one month I believe it’s three bucks. That is it! Please support journalism and keep me employed.)
Sexplain It: I Found Out My FWB Is in Love With Me. I Don't Love Her Back.
The 16th officially starts #biweek, so next week is when I’ll start posting all that juicy bi content. Until then, picture me getting daisy-chained between a man and a woman. If picturing that isn’t bi visibility, then I don’t know what is.
xoxoxo
Zachary “Escaped From The City” Zane