What Does It Mean to Have a 'Bisexual Encouragement' Kink?
Sales of "bisexual encouragement" content are up 675% since 2020. Pro-Dommes and adult content creators break down the kink and its growing appeal.
Image of Cherie DeVille, courtesy of Cherie DeVille
When I first posted on Instagram that I was seeking content creators who practice “bisexual encouragement” with their clients, one well-intentioned therapist messaged me. She explained that her clientele is predominantly LGBTQ, and she works with a lot of folks coming to terms with their bisexuality. She gently encourages these people to embrace their newfound bisexuality.
I had to politely explain that is not what the term bisexual encouragement means. In the context of porn, sex, and kink, bisexual encouragement is when a woman (often a pro-domme) encourages a man to do something gay (e.g., suck another dude off) for her pleasure.
While this may sound like a niche kink, sales of "bisexual encouragement" content are up 675% since 2020 on Clips4Sale (NSFW) and up 49% this year alone. Generally, in the clips, fetish creators, primarily women, seductively taunt a fan with male-for-male scenarios and fantasies (e.g., "You know you want to try it," and "You can't stop thinking about dick"). Sometimes, the videos are interspersed with pictures of naked men or dildos.
In-person, a bisexual encouragement scene often plays out with the client hooking up with another man (usually a hung bull) for the pleasure of the Domme.
Bisexual encouragement is part of the larger fetish universe of "gay encouragement" (essentially the same but using "gay" as the identity), feminization, submission, cuckolding, and other bi-ish "taboo" fantasies for cis men who might regard themselves as straight.
Obviously, I find this all fascinating (and very hot). Since I wanted to learn more about bi encouragement, I reached out to pro-Dommes who create bi encouragement content and/or have bi encouragement sessions with male clients.
Below, you’ll be hearing from:
Mistress Lauren (OnlyFans link), a pro-Domme and certified sex coach
Cherie DeVille (Instagram), a Brazzers exclusive porn legend
Mistress Kendra James (NSFW personal website), a pro-Domme and adult content creator
Jessica Dynamic (Linktree), an online-only creator and performer
Please explain the difference between “bi encouragement” and “forced bi.”
“I view forced bi as a kink that falls under CNC, consensual non-consent, where the Dom is ‘forcing’ the sub (typically a guy) to engage in gay behavior. The sub may be saying ‘no’ and expressing resistance, but as with CNC, there’s been an agreement established between the Dom and the sub that this is okay, and safe words and other safety measures are already in place.
When bringing to life a forced bi fantasy, I say things to my sub like, ‘You have no choice but to suck this dildo [or this cock],’ and I also use lots of degradation and humiliation language, where I’m ridiculing my sub for doing so. My tone is harsh and mean, and I’m laughing in their face.
Bi encouragement differs from this because it falls more under a praise kink. With bi encouragement, I’m not consensually ‘forcing’ my sub to suck a dildo because he doesn’t need to be forced. He wants to do it but needs to be encouraged and praised for doing so. In this case, I’d say things like, ‘You’re doing such a good job sucking that for me,’ with a warmer and more playful tone.
However, regardless of these differences, I often use the terms interchangeably. One key reason for this is that the word ‘forced’ is censored on OnlyFans and other porn websites, so when my subscribers ask for bi encouragement content, I don’t really know if they mean ‘encouraged’ or ‘forced.’” — Mistress Lauren
“Due to payment processor regulations, I actually NEVER do ‘forced’ or ‘coerced bi.’ It’s a banned show/fetish category across all of my platforms. However, ‘Make Me Bi,’ ‘Encouraged Bi,’ and ‘Bi Encouragement’ are fetish concepts that I often entertain within my fanbase. Ultimately, those three categories all revolve around fluidly accepting homoerotic urges because a beautiful woman is introducing the idea. The idea is centered around a dominant, seductive woman encouraging, suggesting, or mentally strong-arming a fan consensually to be ‘gay’ or ‘bisexual’ during the fantasy.” — Jessica Dynamic
(Image of Jessica Dynamic courtesy of Jessica Dynamic)
How do you engage in bisexual encouragement with clients IRL and/or in video content?
“I shoot both solo POV encouraged bi videos as well as videos of male performers, but generally, there's an element of humiliation, roleplay, or BDSM, often with a strap-on cock to warm them up for my hot new boyfriend or alpha slave who will supposedly be along shortly to use them.
Despite it gaining popularity, people still seem to want to feel as though they've lost control and can't say no, or that it's very taboo and they're doing something naughty. I also get many requests for ‘reprogramming’ or ‘mesmerizing’ them to be gay or bi, which still feeds into the fantasy that you've taken away all responsibility, and they no longer have control. They just want permission for a kinky fantasy.” — Mistress Kendra
“I engage in bi encouragement (and/or forced bi) IRL with lots of dirty talking and roleplaying, and often with the use of dildos. I’ll have my subs suck on my strap while I give them instructions to suck. I emphasize getting the strap nice and wet by spitting all over it, licking it from the base up, twirling their tongue on the tip, and choking and gagging on it! I tell them that this is all preparation for when they’re going to suck off a real cock, or maybe even take one in their ass. As for my OnlyFans content, I try to translate this IRL experience into videos with dirty talk while I stroke my dildo and shove the tip up to the camera.” — Mistress Lauren
Have you seen an increase in clients/viewers seeking bi encouragement?
“Yes, I have noticed an increase in the interest in bisexual encouragement content. It seems like more people are becoming open to exploring different facets of their sexuality, and this kind of content provides a safe space to do that.” — Cherie DeVille
(Image of Cherie DeVille, courtesy of Cherie DeVille)
“YES! It’s a category gaining popularity on webcams and in content storylines. As a matter of fact, I have three “Make Me Bi” clips in my editing pile right now.” — Jessica Dynamic
What do you think the appeal is for men? Why does it turn them on?
“The most basic reason is that the guy is so submissive to dominant women that he’ll do anything for us, including sucking dildos and pleasuring cocks. Another basic reason is shame; the guy is turned on by anything ‘wrong’ or ‘taboo,’ which he deems gay sexual behaviors to be. Another reason is that the guy is simply turned on by cock and/or men. Some of these men are into women and men, so they like it when women encourage them to pleasure men. Others are into women and cocks, but they’re not into men, so they like women encouraging them to suck dildos and would also like the cock of a trans woman.
Bi encouragement is often tied into sissification and cuckolding, so those are two other reasons. In sissification, the sub enjoys being turned into a girl, i.e., feminized, by dressing like a girl and acting like a girl. In cuckolding, the beta cuck is a guy who is submissive to both a woman and an alpha male, and the beta enjoys being humiliated as the alpha fucks the woman better than he can. Since the beta cuck doesn’t deserve to fuck the woman, he can instead be useful by ‘servicing’ the alpha’s cock and ‘cleaning up’ the cumshot afterward.
With these clients, I degrade them and their cock, expressing my desire for a bigger one from a ‘real man.’ I describe how I’d need him to get the cock wet for me, watch while I get fucked, and then lick the creampie out of my pussy.
The turn-on here is the erotic irony: the cuck is degraded to being worthless, but by doing these degrading, humiliating things to please his Doms, he’s at least worth something.” — Mistress Lauren
(Image of Mistress Lauren courtesy of Mistress Lauren)
“On a fundamental level, I think sex feels good. Having something in your ass and stimulating your prostate feels good. Being told to do so by a beautiful woman is exciting. Having permission to do this takes away a certain feeling of responsibility and allows you to enjoy something that might be taboo. It's exciting to do something a little kinky or taboo. The idea that you're not supposed to do it is, in itself, a turn-on.
Anal sex is often equated with being gay; therefore, if you like it, you must be at least a little bi, right? Obviously, a physical act and sexual identity are very different things. Still, I think that notion is so ingrained in our society that men will always believe it just a little bit, even if it's subconscious.” — Mistress Kendra
Do you think these men are closeted bi/gay or straight?
“I don’t think you can use one sexual orientation to describe all men who are into bi encouragement. I believe the majority of these men are either bi or straight, and a small fraction are gay. This question is so hard, and it’s the most common question my subs ask me after they finish: Am I gay?? Am I bi?? What does this mean?? I tell them this: If you only like cock when a woman is involved, then you’re not gay, and you could or could not be bi. I ask them to think about if they’d want to play with a man without a woman forcing or encouraging them to do so. I also talk to them about sexual attraction versus romantic attraction and explain that they can be sexually into men, but not romantically. Does that make them bi? I don’t know; labels are constricting in that way.” — Mistress Lauren
“I believe it's a spectrum. Some men might be exploring their bisexual or homosexual desires, while others might just be curious or turned on by the idea of stepping outside their usual boundaries. Sexuality is complex, and these fantasies don’t necessarily align with a strict identity label. It could be about the thrill of the unknown or simply enjoying a different type of fantasy.
I think it's important to note that fantasies and realities don’t always match. What someone enjoys in a fantasy setting doesn’t always reflect their real-life preferences or identities. Bisexual encouragement content allows people to explore these fantasies in a controlled, safe environment, which can be a powerful way to understand more about their desires and boundaries.” — Cherie DeVille